Living a Rationally Fearless Life: Decreasing Fear
The problem is that your brain’s natural programming goes haywire sometimes, and you get held back by irrational fear and anxiety. You might be afraid of threats that no longer exist, or you might even have an irrational fear of things that never existed.
As far as we know, there are no giant tigers hunting in the suburbs. Even back in primitive times, a person who refused to leave the camp to gather food because he saw a tiger three weeks ago, but had not seen one since, was unlikely to prosper.
What is Fear?
Reduced to a simple definition, fear is an unpleasant emotion sparked by the belief that you are threatened. Fear arises when you assume, or supposed to be the fact, that in the near or far future you are going to experience, through your passive senses or imagination, more pains than pleasures, more losses than gains, more negatives than positives, or more challenges than supports from yourself or other(s).
If the fear of disease helps you stop smoking or the threat of car accidents helps you remember to remind your children to buckle their seatbelts, fear might be unpleasant, but it can also be considered positive. It helps you protect yourself and your family from very real threats.
When isn’t fear productive?
Sometimes our big brains do a very good job of translating past experiences into reasonable caution. But often, signals get mixed, and the fear of future threats turns irrational and unproductive. While reasonable fear can be positive, unreasonable fear limits you. It may be just as distractive as the lack of fear.
If the threat of rejection keeps you from asking your boss for a raise or an attractive acquaintance for a date, you need to understand that nobody is likely to ever give you what you want if you never even ask. If your last request for a raise or a date got turned down, you might take the reasonable caution of trying to formulate your question better next time, but it doesn’t mean you should never try again.
In these instances, as Franklin D. Roosevelt so famously said, “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.” A refusal is not going to turn you into cat food. In fact, a refusal is simply a sign that you need more practice or a different opportunity. Consider it part of your education.
Don’t Be Afraid Of Your Fear
In order to reduce fear, you need to stop being afraid of fear. The Demartini Method is a powerful transformative tool that can change the way you think about perceived threats. This synergistic process combines over 40 years of research and combines many scientific disciplines. It has been proven to change the way that people emotionally and physically react and balance their emotional states.
By using the Demartini Method® you can enjoy your day with a greater sense of certainty in your actions and gratitude for everything that goes right. This certainty helps you eliminate irrational fear and put negative experiences in perspective.
I’m a trained Demartini Method® Facilitator, and I want to help you begin living the life you were born to live. Please call or email me right away to learn how you can begin to balance your emotions, make more progress and improve the lives of the people around you.