We’re all amazing individual, with a distinctively different set of beliefs and values. They’re not wrong or right, they’re just our understandings and beliefs. However, hurt, anger, criticism, blame, aggression or frustration can occur. These are just some of the actions or feelings that can bring about adverse conflict – adverse conflict with others or adverse conflict within ourselves.
Examples of situations that can bring about adverse conflict include:
- Our expectation of other people to live or behave a certain way.
- Our expectancy of other people to live or behave only in accordance with what’s important to us, and not what’s important to them.
- A combination of 1 and 2.
- Our expectation of ourselves to live or behave a certain way.
- Our expectation of our self to live or behave outside of what’s important to us but to live or behave exclusively to what’s important to someone else.
- A combination of 4 and 5.
These examples are not exclusive, there are more, but maybe you’re able to relate to some of them?
Living with one or more of these expectations can have a profound effect on our relationships. It can impact our mental and emotional or physical and functional wellbeing also, with such issues as, Migraines, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, (IBS), Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, (OCD), or Borderline Personality Disorder.
The only way we intervene is by changing our thoughts and beliefs.
There’s no ‘have toe’s in the world except in our perceptions.
In the words of Norman Vincent Peale, “When you change your thoughts, you change your world.”
If you are experiencing conflict and want to be free of it, help is available.
What can you do?
- Book a Discovery Session with Geoff, it is a free trial lasting 20 minutes to see if what Geoff does will work for you.
- Book Private consultations with Geoff, where ever you are in the world.
“Intent fuels outcomes”